If Relationship Doesn't Work Out

 If you can trust someone fully, then you can love them fully. A relationship full of fear, suspicion, and anxienty just leaves you unhappy and your partner feeling emotionally trapped and suffocated.  You have to believe that you and your partner will last forever and they will take care of you emotionally. Before committing, think "Do I trust  this person with everything that I  am?". If you are sure and trust, then you are ready to be in a happy, commited relationship. Learn to believe your partner and let them do what they need to do to fulfill their happiness and you are sure to result in a happy relationship.

But Sometimes no matter how hard you try to fix your relationship it just doesn't work out. 
When you are left with a broken heart and just don't know how you are going to make it, hold your head up high and try a few of these ideas to help you get over your break up.

1. Start a hobby. Try something you have never done before! Art, writing, painting, crafting,  or collecting are a few things to consider.


2. Go to mall and shopping  not only boost yourself esteem, it also gets you out and around people, opening up opportunities to meet somebody new.
  this not only takes up time but it will help you feel better about yourself and get you out of the house.


3. Pamper yourself. Get a new haircut and have your nails done. If you can’t afford to go have them done, do them yourself! Set up some nice music and treat yourself to a bubble bath followed by a nice manicure.


4. Reach out to your friends and family. Most of the time when we are involved in a major relationship we neglect our friends and family… They probably miss you and will welcome seeing you more often.


5. Break off all communications with the “ex” for a while. It is hard enough to forget them and move on, but when you are still in communications you are doing nothing more than prolonging it. Set up a “fake” number on your phone for when you feel the need to text them. When you feel like calling them, write a letter instead and then burn it. Do whatever you have to do, just do not contact them!


6. Start your own website. I know that seems kind of silly, but there are so many places to make free websites and they can take up a lot of your time. Start one about your favorite animal, or one that has you favorite recipes. Start a forum with your friends and have them post as well. It will take up your free time and give you something to look forward to.


Most Important tip of all:

 REMEMBER YOU DESERVE THE BEST AND SETTLE FOR NOTHING LESS!

Warm Regard,

~Lailys~

Wherever I go, you're always there

14 March 2008 in Memory,..

Minggu pagi,.. cuaca kota serang begitu cerah. Udara hari ini terasa sangat bersih dan segar. Sudah sejak subuh tadi, aku terbangun,... kemudian membersihkan seiisi rumah, sebelum suami dan anak-anakku bangun dari tidurnya. Setelah itu aku pergi ke kamar anak-anak, membangunkan mereka dengan lembut,... lalu memandikan mereka satu per satu.

Hari itu aku ada kegiatan mengikuti Olah raga bersama  dengan instansi-instansi pemerintah   banten, yang bertempat di Polda Banten. Karena itu aku harus mengurus anak-anakku sejak mulai pagi sekali. Aku berniat membawa serta  salah satu anak kembarku, Aldo. Sedangkan Aldi dan ferdi aku tinggal dirumah bersama pengasuhnya.

Sebenarnya jika harus memilih, aku lebih suka tidak berangkat ke acara tersebut, dan bisa punya banyak waktu untuk bersama ketiga anak-anakku. Tetapi aku tidak punya pilihan,.. Perintah Ketua adalah perintah yang harus aku laksanakan.  

Hari itu anak-anakku terlihat sangat manis dan lucu-lucu. Setelah mandi, berpakaian rapi dan wangi, aku meminta pengasuh untuk membawa ferdi dan aldi jalan-jalan di komplek perumahan kami, sambil sarapan pagi. Sedangkan aku mempersiapkan diri untuk berangkat ke kantor Persit KCK bersama Aldo. 

Kami berangkat bersama-sama pengurus Persit lainnya, menggunakan mobil Persit yang sudah disediakan. Di alun-alun kota cilegon, stelah memarkirkan mobil. Kami berkumpul untuk mengikuti kegiatan pagi itu.

Kegiatan hari itu tidak banyak, hanya senam aerobik, gerak jalan dan ramah tamah.  Meski sambil menggendong Aldo aku tetap melalui rentetan kegiatan hari itu dengan baik dan lancar. meski sedikit pegal dan kelelahan karena harus Jalan santai sambil menggendong bayi. Rute jalan santainya lumayaaaaannnnn bangetttttt.... hehehe,... 

Meski sepanjang jalan si kecil Aldo tetap terlelap dalam tidurnya. Sesekali ada beberapa anggota kopassus yang kasihan melihat aku kelelahan dan menawarkan menggendong Baby Aldo. Akhirnya masa penyiksaan berakhir sudah ketika kaki melangkah mencapai garis finish.

~ Lailys ~

Art of Rampak Bedug Kopassus

 

This time I would like  to share a story, about one of my activities as a Persit KCK Group-1 Kopassus. That is as one  of the players Rampak Bedug or Rampak Drum in April 2004, elected directly by the leader of Persit, Mrs. Renny Teddy Lhaksmana. Rampak Bedug is under the directions of Mrs. Renny Teddy Lhaksmana, She was initiated the culture Rampak Bedug to  be displayed again.

Bedug or Major drum is very familiar to Indonesia people. In each the mosque is almost a Bedug or Major drum,  as an information tool for every moslem to worship or prayer. Rampak bedug is one of the unique art Banten, society Banten obliged to preserve it. For that Group-1 Kopassus playing an active role in preserving the culture of typical Banten.

And then the soldiers and Persits, They are trained to be able to played Rampak Bedug, and as result  they were able to do all that. With Persit flexibility while dancing and beat the major drum or bedug, and also with the soldiers stout  in hitting the major drum or bedug with a distinctive style strapping a soldier, who is also flexible in typical commando warrior dance.

Rampak Bedug  Special  Forces Group-1 is often performed at prestigious events, national and international scale. As in the Grand Opening F-1 event, in Sentul jakarta several years ago, continued  performing at  the Presidential Palace-Jakarta, at TMII-Ancol-Jakarta, Bogor State Palace in Cipanas, and many others events.

All that can go well and successful, because to the direction, guidance and motivation provided by our chairman of Persit KCK Special Forces Group-1,.. Dangrup-1 and their staffs. Rampak Bedug Special Forces Group-1 consists of 20 Soldiers   of Kopassus and 20 Persits. They got extra hard training and discipline, all due  because to the cold hands of our coach "Kang Epul and his team", who came from Pandeglang, banten. Rampak bedug is also collaborated with solo organ played by Mr. Dudi or sometimes Mr. Rudi.

This rampak bedug is a rare collaboration, The only one in Indonesia. Since Then, rampak Bedug it is getting popular in own Banten people. And now, many government agencies are following in our footsteps in the show Rampak Bedug.

List Name of Persit Rampak bedug Player period 2004-2008 :

1. Mrs. Ria Djon

2. Mrs. Fitri Wulang Y

3. Mrs. Sandy Deddy S

4. Mrs. Lisna Agus Bakti

5. Mrs. Anty Aidi

6. Mrs. Dian Ferry

7. Mrs. Lelly Akmil

8. Mrs. Ira Wisnu

9. Mrs. Shinta Wijaya

10. Mrs. Dewi usman

11. Mrs. Caroko

12. Mrs. Tari Djun

13. Mrs. Hera Deden

14. Mrs. Mia Suratman

15. Mrs. lalu

16. Mrs. Hasan

17. Mrs. Hasyim

18. Mrs. 

19. 

20.

So that is a little story about Rampak Bedug, as my Experience. I am very proud to have been a part of the Rampak bedug, which has made my life experiences become more meaningfull.

Warm regard

~Lailys~

Persit Friends,...

No one knows the extent to which the life story ended. In every person's life, it will definitely need a friend who can share when hard and happy. Friend does have a role to make life more colorful. But the presence of a friend is not to replace the pair. However, if we follow the course without the company of a friend let alone without a friend? Everything seems redundant, ...

When we have a good friend, not a gift or gifts or gifts that we want. But the care and patience required. Sometimes friend also needs to be heard, be it happy or in sorrow. Spending time with friends will relax our fatigue after solid activity every day. Even if you are far away from friends, does not mean you forget about it?

A good friend is a friend that is always there, especially in tough times, make us feel safe through periods like anything else, assures us that we will pass the test from Allah SWT. friend who always gives us two good choices, embrace us when we face daunting problems, helping us survive the people who just want to take advantage of us, when we neglect something admonish, remind when we forget, help increase our confidence , helps us to become a better person, and more ... accept ourselves for what it is ...

Life is all about people. Humans are social being. Our time spent with friends and family is all that we have on our short time on this planet. If we don’t make time for meaningful connections, what is the point of our lives? Is it to watch TV or shop?

Health and relationships are the most basic elements to a satisfying life, and often they are enough. If you’ve lost a loved one or have battled your own serious illness, you realize that you don’t really need much more than good health and the company of people you care about.

" Hopefully we can be a good friend for people around us, 

 so we will find  happiness for ourselves and for other people "

~Happy Day ~

~Lailyana~

My journey as a Persit KCK

from left to right:  Mba Mita, Mba  Yova , Mba Evi , and Me

I wear a uniform PSR Persit KCK (Official Uniform Apparel), @ Persit Anniversary event, 4 april 2003, When I became the youngest Persit and newly married, I was honored to get cone pieces.

Being Persit KCK Grup-1 Kopassus Serang

Being Persit KCK Group-1 Kopassus is my pride, memories that I will never forget, because too many sweet and wonderful memories during my life there. The people are friendly and nice. Being a KCK Persit ... made ​​me learn to be more resignation, courage, sincerity and surrender to what God outlined for me.

Love and be loved is the desire of every human being, especially if you can spend the whole entire time living as a couple. Married. Received the blessing of God and country, then you can be happy together forever. Marrying a soldier means being prepared everything. the same as being a hero does not have a degree. You will be willing to sacrifice everything, even 'destroy' private life and privacy for the sake of  your beloved husband. After marriage, sacrifice and struggle for households will increase. Assignments carried obliging husband to move where he stayed until retirement. When the husband department, as the wife we ​​should not be too long to stay in the family home. You should faithfully follow and be with him at the home office.

Classic problem that always occurs at all levels of the organization persit. Since the first time my mother-in-law became PERSIT KCKC until now,.. a soldier's wife must be having this problem. Disparity, discrimination, difference in status between the members with members, with the board members..., the board with the board, or the board with chief and chief with members. And this could happen. The question is, why did this happen ...?


The cause is a lack of mental maturity of the organization, because they feel the rank of they husband higher, so she acted arbitrarily  to others army wife who rank husband lower. Or because they feel more educated, she feel most intelligent than the other army wives. There is also a very young age army wife, but her husband prospective commander, so she  doesn't want to respect others who are older than her. This shows the lack of maturity of the soul, that would cause problems in Organizations.

Perhaps the impact of the organization are the usual things that happen in every organization, .. because after all we are human beings who never stop make mistakes, ..  which is coming from a family background, culture, and education are different. but all differences can certainly be overcome by wise, if we realize that we are all working in one container organization of Persit  Kartika Chandra Kirana.

Mutation Events Board Persit KCK Cab II PCBS Kopassus
 I was appointed as Treasurer of the Foundation Kartika Jaya by Mrs. Nasution Irdina

 Events Giving congratulations Events to the new management, 

preceded by the Ketua Persit KCK Cabang II 

Grup-1 kopassus Serang, Mrs. Irdina Nasution (Alm)

Attended by the entire board Persit Cabang II and the Foundation of Kartika Jaya

My experience as Persit KCK member, .. makes me think that in life we must be able to organize themselves after each other and keep the feelings of others, we present karma and are in containers so called organization. We came up with different traits, both the character and nature. However, ... although different, will be able to come together and unite with a foundation of mutual respect, love and care for each other, so that we can co-exist ..

Selfish, selfish, feeling more than anything else will ruin the life of the organization. Because there are those who feel defeated, disrespected even feel offended

I realize that within the organization there is no success  generated by one person alone. Organize a work team / collective, that everyone should be able to feel responsible for the task. Being a Persit ... made ​​me learn tuk be more resignation, courage, sincerity and surrender to what God outlined for me and my husband's career. All the experiences that we have already passed is a picture for the future.

Moving,....

Life experiences led me to a lot of understanding and notes. Good or bad a record of the journey of life, meaningful or not the series of events throughout the year, just our own understanding and interpreting it. However, there is no harm if we believe in and take positive values to get a better quality of self. It reminds me to  someone, that he always reminds me to think positively every day.

Every start life in a new place, I am sure that there are new challenges and expectations. I believe that there will be changes in our life, especially and of course, change for the better.welfare change hearts and minds, giving meaning to the lives of my family and love, further improve the quality of work in the business, as well as in educating children. All good things ought to be served in front of me that is ready I achieved, I developed, and also my evaluation. learn from the failures that have occurred in my life..........

Failure is part of life, failure will give meaning and inspiration if we place the correct portion in the course of our experience. Many people say that failure is success delayed.
which will become a strong driving force of motivation if we manage it well. And I have to fix the failures so excited to be one of the determinants of happiness in the future.

Move  with my kids to a small town in sukabumi, impacting many changes. change for the better. I feel a lot of changes in my life in a short time.  I have to improve my confidence grew, the more regular discipline, also feeling lazy that were increasingly reduced.   All the things that make me as a person that "new", which distinguishes me from previous years. One who is not monotonous, but has the attitude and actions are more "alive", creative, and empowered a strong push to achieve happiness and success.

Because of the situation, I decided to take the kids to leave the big city bandung. Bandung city which has been a part of our life journey. Over the years we lived there. It's  very hard when we stepping foot left the town. The town is so much provide memories for us. but life must go on without having to look back again. The past will not make us vulnerable. but it will make us a better person. But the past will always be the most beautiful part that will always be remembered.
I hope my children will be better than their parents, even had the confidence and the greatest way to enjoy growth and maturity. They do not need much given lectures, enough to see and appreciate the father and mother to deal with life. and should not be quick to give up even though life often give out the hard way. life is a remarkable gift to be thankful for and put to the best possible. There should be no word hopeless, there should be no a sense of frustration.


I love you all kids,... Ferdi ... Aldi... Aldo..


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Welcome To My New Blog

Assalammu'alaikum Wr. Wb,..


Welcome to  Laily's Blog 

There is no word as beautiful as grateful, no praise that we should say in addition to God. May all blessings to Prophet Muhammad SAW, family, friends, and hopefully come to us all, the faithful until the end of time. amen


In 2012 we have been through. Various events have passed. There are joys and sorrows, tears and laughter, thick and thin, all being part of the episode that we must live life. We can not refuse, we also do not force it. Let all the flows, which should happen it happens. Live with sincerity, try to do my best. Problem successful or not, may God disposes.

Make Me personally, the year 2012 is the year of revival after the previous year mired in helplessness. This year full of fun, while still leaving less debris fallout. Hopefully, in 2013, we will get a lot better than what we get in the year 2012. Hope of success, may be soon be realized. No more crying there, it's time we rise! Let's show that we are able to provide the best for the people we love. I always hope and pray that all my sons grow up to be a pious child, and can implement all the knowledge they have acquired in school.


Lord, give me strength to guide them, feed them and provide a good education for them.
Make my children human  option in your way, God. Bestow blessings and fortune are useful. Instill a love of the greatness and majesty of God. 

God, I hope tomorrow is the day-to-day better for us,... me and my children. Do not let us with the trouble come to us,..  give always the easyly in this life, only To you we worship and   begging for help... Ya Allah.


To My Lovely childrens,... Be a good Childs, ... Be a pious, always worship God, respect for the elderly and care for the others. May God give us the convenience and always bless us every step. I just created my new email account, and I want to create a new blog. It's been more than a year that I did not make any progress with my blog. Well, the main reason is that I got problems with my blog, I could not manage the postings well. Everything was out of order. However, I have now come back, hoping that I can handle it better and I have a lot to post. 

For this new blog,  First, as you can see, there are changes on the layout and template (I think pink is nice). The photos are now in a better order. So, I hope you like it now. Secondly, there is laily's Outlet cataloq.This add displays beautiful accessories of the organizations army wife needs and other product. I think this is in line with our online shop. I will be adding some more after this.

I will be writing and publishing the bits and pieces of how to start a blog from scratch, writing about my life   over the next few months as time permits. I thinks writing a blog can be fun.  a place to share information and answer questions about a subject close to my heart and always on my mind: getting young children ready to write. Little kids have big ideas. It's our job as the people who love them to set them up for success, right from the start. Then we just have to "ooh" and "aah" as they make their mark on the world, and appreciate every minute of it. But that's what we parents do best, right?

Let me know your thoughts, ideas, and questions and I'll do my best to provide a creative space to reflect on the art and science of parenting.


Regards,..

~ Mommy Lailys ~