~Let it Go~

Letting go isn't easy, especially in relationships. And letting go of your marriage, spouse or partner can be one of the hardest things to do in life. Yet, it can be the most rewarding, positive, life-changing experience you will ever have. Letting go allows you to express your real self,... the one that doesn't require any attachments to feel safe or happy. Truth be told, your real self already has everything you need to feel secure and happy. Be willing to get to know the real you. That begins with letting go of those people (places or things) that you mistakenly believed brought you security and/or happiness. That belief (which you have the power to change) keeps you imprisoned and locked in a cycle of low self-worth, dependency, and misguided duty or obligation. Very unhealthy, to say the least.

There are other reasons why it's good to let go. For one thing, it allows you to make room for new, positive experiences. When you let go of a person with whom you've had a relationship, you are in a position to create something totally new. It's your chance to take all those things you loved about your past relationship as well as all those things you wished you had but didn't, and combine them as your vision for your ultimate relationship. Of course, if you're not ready for that, you can still use that opening to do something in your life you never had the chance to do before. Try something new!

But aside from the reasons why you should let go, there's still the dilemma of how you're going to feel good about it. It just doesn't seem that easy when you're letting go of someone you've loved or still love. But consider this: You, as a divine and creative being, have the power to choose to feel good about it. In my experience, this is something most people miss. We are conditioned to believe that letting go of a relationship, marriage, spouse or partner is going to make us feel bad. We don't even consider the idea that we can actually choose to feel good about it. While it's natural to feel sad over your loss, you don't need to be stuck in that sadness for as long as you think. Know that the most crucial first step to feeling good about letting go is to simply decide to. Your decision about how your future experience will be determines your outcome. You have that power of choice, so use it!

This isn't to deny or suppress your emotions. On the contrary, choosing to feel good about letting go actually helps to view and express them in a much healthier manner. You won't dwell upon your grief and sadness, thereby perpetuating it even further. Instead, your emotions become more balanced as you detach from the drama of it all.

Once you make the decision to feel good about letting go, you can follow these suggestions to help that good feeling continue:

• Stop forfeiting your time doing things you don't love. Although it's necessary to allot time to your responsibilities and obligations, don't waste your time on thoughts or activities that consistently bring you down. Stop reading negative, angry or depressing posts, watching sad movies about lost love or listening to songs about heartache. 

 They don't serve you in the least. Use your time doing things that support what you love and enjoy, especially if it's creative and fun. And do them without guilt.

• Go out in nature. Nature has a very healing and uplifting effect. Spend at least 30 minutes a day outside. Connect with the earth, trees, plants and animals. If you can be near water, that's even better! I believe that water is cleansing to the emotions and mental clutter. In time, your outing will help you to feel the energy of a positive, new beginning.

• Happily daydream and wonder. Use the creative imagination of your inner child to wonder what it would be like if you had ______ or experienced ______ (but don't include your ex in it, as that would defeat the purpose). Do this daily. Your joyful inner child is begging to be expressed, so let your imagination lead the way. When you think and dream of joyful and magical things, you become happier! And so what if you feel silly -- being silly always brings a smile, right?

Once you let go, you allow the universe to step in to bring benefit to everyone involved -- especially you. Benefit = goodness, health, happiness, prosperity, blessings, assistance.... the list goes on. Holding on creates unhealthy attachments that hurt everyone involved -- especially you. By holding on and believing that letting go feels "bad," you're not going to see or feel the benefits. Your thoughts and beliefs about letting go are your biggest detractors so change them and decide to feel good about it. You just might find your newfound freedom feels good after all.

A Family Is Like

A Family is like a circle
the connection never ends
and even if at times it breaks
in time it always mends
a family is like the stars
somehow there always there
families are those who help
who support and always care
A Family is like a book
the endings never clear
but through the pages of the book
their love is always near
A family is many things
with endless words that show
who they are and what they do
and how they teach you so you know
but don’t be weary if it's broken
or if through time its been so worn
families are like that-
they're split up and always torn
but even if this happens
your family will always be
they help define just who you are
and will be apart of you eternally

My Blessing In Life

Every morning I wake up and see,
The most handsome man lying next to me.
He's the one I cherish and love,
A blessing sent from Heaven above.
I will love him as a faithful wife should,
And do everything for him I could.
I would let him know everyday,
That I love him more than words can say.
For the two children we have together,
And the love for God in each other.
It will keep our love for each other strong,
And the Lord will guide us away from all wrong.

A Dream For You

If I could dream
The dream I wanted too,
I would close my eyes,
And dream a dream for you.

I would give you all the world,
That you are deserving of,
And to you I would give
My everlasting love.

I would see to it,
That you were never sad.
And nothing in your life
Would ever happen bad.

I would wish for you,
All things would go your way,
And you would always be happy,
Each and every day.

In my dream
You would stay
Just as beautiful
As you are today.

Life for you would be as perfect
As the blueness of the sky,
And no one would ever hurt you,
Or ever make you cry.

I know it's just a dream,
But if dreams could come true,
I would close my eyes,
And dream a dream for you.

~Family is~

Family is,
heaven sent from our father above,
bonded by the power of love.
No matter what family has each others back,
when push comes to shove.

Family is,
understanding, never demanding,
all for one and one for all,
I will never leave you alone standing.

Family is,
one in itself, my love is your love,
your pain is my pain, my wealth is your wealth,
I promise to never leave you by yourself.

Family is,
the strongest team, the strongest unit;
if love could be visualized,
family would be the blue print.

Family is,
forgiveness and patience,
it's sweeter than the sweetest fragrance,
the power of family is a reflection of Gods compassion and magnificence.

Family is,
never turning our back, and never shames,
lend my helping hand and not a finger pointing the blame.

No matter what a family bond can never be broken,
even through a nuclear explosion,
if one of us lives we all live.
Forever to eternity, we are family,
my father, my mother, my sisters and me.

~Benefits of Playing on the Outside House~

Activities outside the home is great for the child's vision. outdoor activities can prevent children affected by nearsightedness. Moreover, the age of the children, they need to focus on more distant objects look. With exposure to natural light when they are out of the house so their vision will increase.

Based on the study were also the children who suffer from myopia or nearsightedness spent 3.7 fewer hours outside the home. But it can be overcome farsightedness if the kids add time to move or play outdoors. With the addition of just one hour during the week, children can increase visibility.

One of the researchers from the University of Cambridge study, Anthony Khawaja said activities outside the home is a simple and inexpensive way to increase the child's vision. However, further research is needed to determine other factors that can help children improve eyesight if it increases visibility, reduce instensitas look close, exposure to natural ultra-violet light, or other physical activity. Not to mention there are foods that can improve the eye health of children.

Myopia is a common vision problem in the entire world. As many as 42 percent of the United States and more than 80 percent of Asians suffer from nearsightedness. But an increasing number of people with myopia in the last decade more toward children and teens. So, there is no reason for parents to forbid their children to play outdoors.

~ Pembatas Buku Organisasi ~

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~Selalu Antara Engkau dan Tuhan~

Orang kerap kali tidak bernalar

Tak logis dan egois

Bila begitu maafkalah mereka

Bila engkau baik

Orang mungkin akan menuduhmu

Menyembunyikan sikap egois

Biar begitu tetaplah bersikap baik

Bila engkau jujur dan berterus terang

Orang mungkin akan menipumu

Meskipun begitu tetaplah jujur dan berterus-terang

Bila engkau sukses engkau akan mendapat

Teman-teman palsu dan teman-teman sejati

Biar begitu tetaplah meaih sukses

Apa yang engkau bangun selama bertahun-tahun

Mungkin akan dihancurkan orang semalam

Biar begitu tetaplah membangun

Biar engkau menemukan ketenangan dan kebahagiaan

Orang mungkin akan iri hati dan dengki

Biar begitu tetaplah bahagia dan temukan kedamaian hati

Kebaikan yang engkau lakukan hari ini

Mungkin akan dilupakan orang keesokan harinya

Biar begitu tetap lakukanlah kebaikan

Berikan pada dunia milikmu yang terbaik

dan mungkin itu tak akan pernah cukup

biar begitu tetaplah berikan kepada dunia Milikmu yang terbaik

Ketahuilah pada akhirnya

Sesuangguhnya ini adalah 

Antara Engkau dan Tuhan

Tidak Pernah antara engkau dengan mereka

sumber : Ny. Ito S

~ How Do You Know Your Marriage Is Over?~

How  do you know your marriage is Over...?? Easy to hard questions to be anwered. Perhaps this question can be answered easily by a couple who has experienced ups and downs in their marriage. But there is no harm if we try to discuss it here. I believe everyone wants to get married once in his life, and certainly also want to build a happy marriage. But with the passage of time, the number of trials and problems are not resolved and always tilted continuously from one side, maybe everything will change.

Two people who once loved each other in the early marriage. One began to turn, and treason. Gradually it affects communication between them. Little things can become big issues, the debate between those who never quit.

Marriage will over if we  feel nothing. There is no more anger, no more hatred, no more love, like just nothing.  Relationship become bland. The things your spouse has done, you can go to anger triggers. It is not just about how to control emotions and reactions.

I fear most in a relationship ended with extreme hatred. Beginning of each marriage partner has the hope and vision of an idealistic marriage. But as they stepped into the marriage, often encountered  things not as expected. Differences of opinion, background, perspective of something different from our spouse. Sometimes new problems and complicated so feel free pair or even think to escape. Many couples who claim that their partners have changed since a marital union. In the end, the answer chosen by them.

~ Speechless Sharp and Rough ~

Communication is not merely a matter of how long the couple talked and talked, but what about the quality  of the conversation. If both spouses or one of them  liked to use sharp words, this is a first hint of their relationship will not last long.

Most,.. In their conversation will take them to quarrels, disappointment, hurt and ultimately want to split up because they can not stand anymore.

~ Starting From a Bully ~

 Any insult (bully). excessive criticis,  defensiveness and stubbornly maintained continuously will cause rift. Spouse can not trust, comfort, protection, and support, so that they would eventually realize  that they are  no longer aligned.

~ Emotional ~

No one is able to resist teh temperamental figure. As for if he will reach  the point of boredom and eventually  find someone else who under stand him / her.  Here is the beginning of one of people choose to cheat.

~ Body Language ~

Rarely show affection through touch and non-verbal actions make your further pair. As there is no longer a contact pair was connected and tied. Moreover,.. if only ti give a hug he had not had time. The pair will be bland and lose feeling.

~ Ego Talking ~

Whenever there is a problem, instead of finding a way out for both of us even try to defend and save themeselves. Such selfish actions will not make the problem quickly completed, would make the gap is widening. Especially  when dealing with a partner who is equally stubborn, which can not be accepted input, their relationship will be filled with anxiety and lengthy disputes. The tail will make them say, "it does not fit anymore".

To keep in mind,... when deciding to get married must all be done on the basis of love and thought that long. Dealing with any heavy, formed early commitment is the only law that shoud be retained in order to marriage so no mess.

If you ang the people closest to you are having problems in the marriage, invite to recall the initial commitment has been made. Because marriage is not just a role or status, but something that is done on the basis of love.

~Turun Ke Bawah Untuk Mengetahui Kondisi Anggota~

 Saya ingin menyampaikan kekutan dari sebuah kebersamaan. Sebaik-baiknya manusia di muka bumi ini adalah manusia yang dapat memberikan manfaat bagi orang lain. Jika setiap individu memberikan kecerdasan untuk memberi (giving question), maka akan tercipta hubungan harmonis di muka bumi ini. 

"Balighu anni walau ayah,.." artinya sampaikan olehmu walaupun satu ayat. Hal ini saya pahami,..  ketika masih berkiprah di Persit KCK Grup-1 Kopassus,... untuk selalu menyampaikan hal-hal positif  dan baik kepada orang lain, walaupun itu hanya hal-hal sederhana.  Vibrasi positif kita akan mewarnai perilaku dan interaksi keluarga.  Pasti Indah jika keluarga kita selalu mengeluarkan aura atau vibrasi positif. 

Turun Ke Bawah

Saat itu keadaan memaksa saya untuk belajar menjadi seorang pemimpin. Saya berusaha langsung turun ke bawah dan mengunjungi anggota sehingga saya tahu lebih banyak dan dapat berbuat lebih banyak untuk anggota saya. Misalnya berkunjung ketika ada anggota yang sakit.  Ternyata dengan bertatap muka secara langsung dengan anggota itu, saya menjadi tahu keluarganya tidak mampu berobat karena tanggungannya dirumah sangat banyak, sedangkan pendapatannya tidak cukup untuk berobat. 

Tanpa adanya keakraban, keramahan dan keterbukaan, maka organisasi akan gersang. Sebaliknya dengan suasana yang menyenangkan dan penuh tanggung jawab, insya allah organisasi akan bergerak positif dan manfaatnya dapat dirasakan oleh semua anggota. Organisasi itu ibarat sebuah keluarga. Di dalam berorganisasi, ada aturan-aturan yang berlaku tetapi bukan semena-mena. 

Seorang pemimpin yang baik tidak hanya bisa asal perintah, tetapi dia harus terlibat langsung dalam semua kegiatan organisasi. Dengan begitu akan tumbuh perasaan bekerja secara bersama-sama, untuk kepentingan bersama dan timbul loyalitas anggota terhadap organisasi itu sendiri. "Maka anggota tidak akan malas untuk melakukan karya bagi Persit kartika Chandra Kirana. Tidak ada perasaan karyanya sebagai beban melainkan sebagai buah dari kebersamaan."

Program Yang Mengena

Kebersamaan dapat diperoleh jika seroang pemimpin membuat suatu perencanaan atau program yang matang.  Mungkin dengan memberikan banyak keterampilan-keterampilan kepada anggota, sehingga diharapkan dapat meningkatkan kualitas kegiatan, sehingga setiap anggota merasakan manfaatnya.

~Tuhan Sudah mengatur yang terbaik Untuk Saya~

Saya Berprinsip bahwa apapun yang terjadi saya harus siap menerima apa adanya, karena dibalik itu,Tuhan sudah mengatur yang terbaik untuk saya. Sekarang ini saya terfokus di aktivitas saya dan anak-anak.

Saya adalah seorang ibu rumah tangga biasa yang terbiasa mengurus pekerjaan rumah, yang harus selalu siap membagi waktu antara kegiatan rumah dan diluar rumah. Yang terpenting kegiatan seharian itu dapat berjalan dengan lancar dan keluarga tidak terlupakan.

Anak-anak saya ajarkan berdemokrasi, yakni bebas memilih namun harus bertanggung jawab. Orang tua hanya memudahkan mereka dalam mencapai cita-cita yang mereka pilih. Membangun komunikasi yang baik dengan keluarga, tidak ada yang ditutupi. Jika ada yang tidak berkenan dihati anak-anak bisa langsung diungkapkan tanpa harus merasa takut untuk disalahkan sepanjang apa yang diungkapkan itu baik dan benar.